How to Make BIG TALK

If you are interested in having me come speak or deliver a BIG TALK workshop at your school / workplace /  organization, please email me at kalinasilverman@gmail.com!

If you are interested in having me come speak or deliver a BIG TALK workshop at your school / workplace /  organization, please email me at kalinasilverman@gmail.com!

A new How to Make Big Talk guide will offer instructions and support on how to conduct your own Big Talk workshop, make your own Big Talk style video, and approach people for Big Talk conversations. *Full detailed Guide Coming soon!*

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Some tips for making BIG TALK to get you started:

  • When approaching people for BIG TALK, make sure they can see you first - never catch someone by surprise by coming behind them as that can feel unwarranted.
  • Use your best judgment to only make BIG TALK in safe and public spaces, like parks or bus stops. Also, make sure the person does not look preoccupied or busy at the moment.
  • Feel free to start with small talk. Let the person know you are trying out an experiment/playing a game/participating in a project that is about meeting new people and skipping the small talk to have more meaningful conversations.
  • Making BIG TALK with strangers usually works best at parties/pre-organized social events. You can use the cards as a tool to get you started.
  • When asking an initial BIG TALK style question, take time to really listen to the other person's answer. Then feel free to ask follow up questions that deepen your understanding of their distinct and personal experience. 
  • BIG TALK works well with anybody, from strangers to people you are acquainted with on a surface level, to loved ones. You can ask different types of questions based on the person you are making BIG TALK with. For example, you may want to ask coworkers questions related to their dreams, passions, and goals for personal growth. You may want to ask family members questions that have to do with love. 
  • Remember what makes a question "BIG TALK:"
    • Universal - Any human being could answer it. It doesn't matter what external factors they are defined by.
    • Open ended - Elicits more than just a yes/no response. There is the opportunity to hear a story.
    • Meaningful - Skips the small talk. Through asking the question, you are able to delve beneath the surface.

Here are some ideas on how to make BIG TALK using the question cards (you can get your own here) :

  • Host a BIG TALK meet-up event
  • Use the question cards as an icebreaker tool at corporate networking events, school orientation activities, and dinner parties
  • Pick a question each day and journal your response
  • Create your own BIG TALK question cards with friends. 

Examples of BIG TALK Questions:

  • What do you wish you had more time to do?
  • What do you think you spend too much time doing?
  • Who do you need to get in touch with because it’s been too long?
  • What is something new you recently tried and enjoyed?
  • What makes you feel most alive?
  • Describe something you achieved that you didn’t think was possible.
  • What gives you hope?
  • What is a new habit you want to take up?
  • What life advice would you offer to a newborn infant?
  • What advice would you offer to yourself five years ago? One year ago? Today?
  • What holds you back from doing the things you really want to do?
  • What do you fear?
  • What are you proud of?
  • What is something you know you do differently than most people?
  • What is your next great adventure?
  • What’s one thing that could happen today that would make it great?
  • What inspires you?
  • What are the little things you stop to appreciate and enjoy?
  • What does home mean to you?
  • What do you want to do before you die?
  • How do you show your love?