by Jiezhen Wu (User) | Jan 24, 2017
"Tired of the same old conversations during Chinese New Year? Here's what you can do to change that.
Whether or not you celebrate Chinese New Year, this festive time of year usually entails spending more time with family, friends, and even acquaintances. Spending more time together also means the probability of receiving these questions may increase.
"Ah boy, your PSLE this year right? Got study hard or not?"
"Ah girl, you got boyfriend already or not?"
"Wah, you put on weight ah. How to get girlfriend like that?"
"Where are you working now? Got make enough money or not?"
"What car are you driving now?"
"When are you getting married?"
Jokes aside, most people start asking these questions because they want to find out more about what's going on in your life, but don't know where to start. So, they resort to small talk instead.
But, what if we didn't have to resort to small talk? What if we could fill these awkward moments with more meaningful, authentic conversations instead?
So this year, instead of small talk, why not try making BIG TALK instead?
BIG TALK questions are usually universal, so that anyone can answer it, regardless of race, religion, gender, or age. The questions are kept open-ended, and asks for more than a yes or no answer. This is where you get to hear their story.
Most importantly, BIG TALK questions are meaningful. By skipping the small talk, you get to engage in more meaningful conversations, with the people you've known for a long time or even people you've just met.
BIG TALK IS A SOCIAL EXPERIMENT AND VIDEO SERIES STARTED BY KALINA SILVERMAN.
SHE EVEN GAVE A TEDX TALK ON BIG TALK TOO.
Before you say, "Wait but that's in the United States – we live in Singapore!", here's proof that we can make BIG TALK in Singapore too.
Whether it's making BIG TALK with our mothers, connecting with complete strangers over kopi, or asking people what home means to them, the biggest step is asking the first question and being open to their answers.
Try it – you might be surprised by how open people can be when you take the time to ask those big questions!
Here are some BIG TALK questions you could try this Chinese New Year:
1. What was life like for you when you were growing up?
2. What is something that you are thankful for in your life and why?
3. What gives you hope?
4. What does home mean to you?
5. What is something good in your life that you often take for granted?
If you decide to take up this challenge and make BIG TALK, we would love to hear your stories. Share your experience making BIG TALK by tagging us at @thehiddengood or using the hashtags #thehiddengood and #makebigtalk.
Or you could join us at The Hidden Good, if you want to make more BIG TALK in Singapore.
TEASER IMAGE CREDIT: SCREENSHOT FROM THE ANIMAL PARADE
Thanks to The Hidden Good for this article contribution!